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Embracing the Slow Life

Finding family connection in a fast-paced world

Amanda Walter

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Embracing the Slow Life
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I know someone who calls themselves “fast”—not in an immoral way, but in a literal sense. This person prides themselves on efficiency, constantly finding ways to do things as swiftly as possible. They’ve mastered their daily commute, always knowing which lanes move fastest at any given time. Whether picking a line at the store or calculating routes on Google Maps, they’re constantly optimizing for speed. They eat fast, walk fast, talk fast, work fast, and if something can be sped up—especially anything they listen to—it’s set to 2x speed, minimum. (I’ll admit, I’m with them on that last one.)

I’m all for productivity, but sometimes I wonder if we’ve lost something valuable in our culture’s pursuit of speed and efficiency. In our haste we miss out on a slower, more intentional way of life—a life that in many ways has more room for meaning and connection. This “slow life” has always intrigued me. My fascination began years ago when I started waking up before dawn and experiencing the stillness of the early morning. It felt like a gift, a time to be fully present without the pressures to hurry. As responsibilities grew, however, from work to raising a family, that slower pace began to feel like a luxury I could not afford. 

The pressures of life and family often push us into survival mode, and for a time this was my reality. The idea of slowing down seemed unrealistic. Now, coming out of the holiday season, and as winter’s quiet calls for rest, I’m reminded again of how valuable it is to pause, reflect, and savor life’s simple moments.

A Case for Slowing Down

Research shows that slowing down is essential for our health. Studies highlight how taking time for reflection, connection, and rest significantly benefits adults and children alike. As a parent, I’ve seen how these pauses strengthen my relationships, reduce stress, and even encourage creativity. Yet how do we find this space for a slower, more intentional life in a world that’s always “on”? 

In our fast-paced world it’s easy for families to fall into a rhythm of rushing from one commitment to another. But intentionally slowing down together can create cherished memories, strengthen relationships, and foster a more meaningful life. How do we make space for a slower, more intentional life amid busy schedules—especially as added pressures of extracurriculars and other appointments start to pile on? I love that we have the Sabbath built in for this purpose, but here are some other practical ways families can slow down and connect.

Existing in Nature Together

Spending time in nature isn’t just a chance to relax; it’s an experience that can draw us closer to each other and to our Creator. Plan regular family outings in nature, whether it’s a park, forest, or beach. Have a picnic, hike, or simply exist together, taking in the plants, animals, and scenery. Observing God’s creation together can spark awe, creativity, and gratitude while giving everyone a break from daily pressures.

Practicing Family Gratitude and Reflection

Gratitude and reflection don’t just improve our individual outlook; they also strengthen family bonds. Set aside time each week to come together as a family and share what you’re thankful for, perhaps by going around the dinner table or keeping a family gratitude journal in which everyone can jot down their blessings. Add moments of reflection by discussing the week’s experiences, goals, and challenges. These times create space for each family member to feel valued and heard, fostering open dialogue, empathy, and a deeper sense of connection. Focusing on the positives and reflecting on life’s moments together can help everyone cultivate contentment and truly be present.

I’m all for productivity, but sometimes I wonder if we’ve lost something valuable in our culture’s pursuit of speed and efficiency.

Developing Family Traditions

Simple family traditions—such as Sunday morning pancakes, Thursday night board games, or weekly craft projects—can naturally slow down time, helping everyone look forward to and savor moments together. Consider some traditions that don’t involve screens, such as storytelling, puzzles, or drawing. Being fully present with each other without digital distractions helps create fond memories and connections that last.

Making Time to Be Present

It is so easy to forget the power of simply pausing, especially when loved ones are calling for our attention. It can be tempting, as parents, to keep pushing forward with daily mundane tasks that need to be done, but sometimes the most meaningful choice is to stop, look up, and be present. Agreeing to pause—even briefly—allows us to take in the moment fully. The to-do list can wait; what can’t wait is the chance to connect with our children or loved ones right now. Choosing to stop and be present creates an atmosphere of warmth and availability that children cherish and remember, reminding them (and us) that they are seen, heard, and valued!

Embracing Bedtime Rituals

Instead of giving in to the urge to rush through bedtime, create a ritual that feels slow and comforting. This might include worship and prayer and sharing highlights of the day. Slowing down at bedtime can help children unwind, feel secure, and recognize the importance of ending the day with peace and connection.

While God calls us to meaningful work and purpose, I don’t believe He intends for us to live in constant stress. The idea of family was woven into Creation, and it is essential to protect the quality of time we spend together. Jesus Himself modeled this way of life—despite His important mission, He took time to rest, connect, and pray. He was never in a rush. Whether sitting down to share a meal, resting at a well, or even taking a nap, Jesus showed us that slowing down has value. 

Slowing down can feel countercultural in a world that equates speed with success. But perhaps that’s why it’s so necessary. Living a slower life as a family is not about abandoning our responsibilities, but about making intentional choices that nurture our relationships. By creating space for rest, connection, and reflection, we can cultivate a life rich with meaning and a firm family foundation. Each day is a gift, and by choosing to slow down, we invite God to reveal the beauty in the present moment and strengthen our connection with Him and each other. 

Amanda Walter lives in Maryland with her husband and children and finds joy in life’s quieter moments.

Amanda Walter

Amanda Walter lives in Maryland with her husband and children and finds joy in life’s quieter moments.

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